It is extremely difficult for a teenage girl to make a decision to have a baby and to put him for adoption. It really requires much courage and love. But you are to know that adoption is permanent, and it will not always possible that you may see or visit your baby in the future. People, who adopt your child, will raise him and have all legal right and authority for his or her welfare.
It is not a secret at all, that pregnancy is the period of life, when a woman becomes extremely sensitive and emotional. If you are thinking about placing your baby for adoption only because you have some money problems, or because your present situation is tough, you are to be aware of the fact that the above mentioned problems may be temporary, and mind that you are expecting your native child, who is helpless, weak and loving you creature, and you may lose him forever. First of all you should call the Social Services and ask their advice, or you may ask your family or friends for a help. In case if you did everything and still want to place a baby for adoption, you will feel more content with this decision of yours.
You are to know that all adoptive parents are carefully screened and give all round information about themselves. Social workers visit their home several times and the parents must provide personal references. They visit lectures on the special nature of adoptive parenting before they adopt a child. the agency’s stuff knows the adoptive parents very well and feels confident that they will be good parents by the time it approved them for replacement.
If you place him or her for adoption your baby may wonder, but you are to know that nowadays adoption is quite different from what it was like 20 years ago. The majority of adopted children realize that parents, who had born them, placed them for adoption purely out of life, because they did not want to make abortion, and because it was the only way out for them. Your child will hopefully be able to realize that most of his or her good traits come from you. And in case if you have an open adoption, you will have a possibility to explain to him or to her why you choose adoption and maybe your child will understand and excuse you.
There are two main types of adoption: Confidential and Open.
Confidential. It is the type of adoption when birth parents and people who adopt their baby never know each other. You have no information about adoptive parents, but they are provided with background information (like medical information) about you and the father of your baby in order to help them take care of your child.
Open adoption is when the birth parents and the adoptive parents know some information about each other. There are such levels of openness:
• Least Open – you do not know each other’s names, what you do is only read about several couple of adoptive parents for your baby and choose the one that sounds best for you and your child.
• More Open – you may speak with the adoptive parents on the telephone and may even exchange first names.
• Even More Open – your social worker or counselor may even arrange the meeting with the possible adoptive parents.
• The Most Open – you and your baby’s future parents exchange your first and last names, your telephone numbers, and you may even stay in contact with them and with your baby. They may possibly let you meet with your child, call him or write him letters, e – mails, etc.